Sunday, June 22, 2014

Is it working ?

Is it working ?
Well the short answer is, NO. The long answer. I was improving and some things definitely did work. First flirting does work, a few things come to mind like. A girl pulling up her jeans, I go like
-I can lend you belt
-she: I need one
later on the jeans drop again.
- Me laughing: It's not working, just act like you didn't notice.
Another one is "you have very nice boobs today"
These girls are always nice to me, always smiling and always playful since then. Here is the sad fact. It takes me lots of effort to maintain this character, that is not me. I enjoy it for a time but that is not me, so I have to constantly work on it which takes time. Once I got sucked up into work, I reverted back to my old character and now all the gains are lost.
The only lesson learned is that flirting is way less risky than being nice. If I try to be nice to a girl and ask things like how was your week, where do you live, any nice movies recently not only will this go nowhere but I will be labeled as a weirdo, the will tell other girls that I am just trying to pick them up !! Flirting never got me these results. Another lesson learned is that value is usually situational where I work, I am the boss, girls are always nice and they start flirting. Where I dance, good dancers have value, even if they have no game and they can get with girls way out of their league in any other context.
Another problem that I have found is that without having had sex before, and much of that I may add the presence of girls will always intimidate me one way or another and they can see through that. Being shy is an unforgivable sin, it makes the girl uncomfortable and if I am shy, she has to be as well, otherwise she labels herself as a slut.
So right now I have to chose between either marrying a girl that I do not like or staying single for the rest of my life. This is the way I am, when I am by myself I want to study the Bible, learn Hebrew. When I talk I want to talk about these things. I have always been like that. I am not a strong guy that can subdue women, I am a guy who watches Frozen and Tangled.
I will try again, but I am getting older and I have to be continuously doing this in order for me to maintain any gains.