This is my first post and my first blog. Recently I have decided to gain the skills needed to approach women that I find attractive for reasons that are definitely pleasing to GOD. It all started after a very good Christian woman that I loved like crazy for all the right reasons rejected me without even giving the slightest chance to show her who I am and without even considering my qualifications. I am a young doctor, I am tall and handsome and I am one of the best Bible scholars that you will meet. After than I started thinking and came to a very obvious conclusion and that was that Christian women, the real ones who have a saving knowledge of Lord and Saviour are never the less women. As simple as that might seem it had escaped me, they get attracted to the same qualities in men that ungodly women do and then some. There are additional requirements that a Christian girl has versus less requirements. So, if I do not have the main core of this manly character that attracts women then no woman will be attracted to me, christian or not. Now that causes a problem doesn't it, because if I feel lust and I can not live my life without ever having sex then I have to attract a woman that I find attractive and marry her.
Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.2 But, because of fornication, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.3 Let the husband render unto the wife her due: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.4 The wife hath not power over her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power over his own body, but the wife.5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be by consent for a season, that ye may give yourselves unto prayer, and may be together again, that Satan tempt you not because of your incontinency.6 But this I say by way of concession, not of commandment.7 Yet I would that all men were even as I myself. Howbeit each man hath his own gift from God, one after this manner, and another after that.8 But I say to the unmarried and to widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.9 But if they have not continency, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
As you might already know this is from 1st Corinthians 7, this is the text directly addressing marriage and sex in the new testament. If I am a new testament believer which is the only type of believer you can be in this age, then this is my text, this is the code. So, I feel lust, I have to get married. That's what the text tells me.
So what should I do ?
Many suggested to me that I just wait, well lust doesn't really wait. I am past thirty, I feel a desire to have sex every single day. I feel a need to share my life with a woman that loves and respects me every single day. To wait is to be tempted for more years and consequently live in sin.
Another problem is that if I where to marry some girl that I do not find attractive just because she is the only one available then that would not solve my problem and I will end up divorced and have an even bigger problem. I will always remember that I married her just because I couldn't get anyone else and not ever letting her know this will be something that I can not promise that I will do. Also the way I value her will always be affected by this fact which is that to me she was the only choice, nothing more.
Then came that day and one of my friends who is less computer savvy than myself suggested that I search the internet for a solution and I did find one. They call that the pickup community.These guys offer exactly what I want they support the transition of guys who can not meet women to guys who can attract any woman that they want. I started reading the material like crazy, I applied it and it was amazing, I could actually get the phone number of complete stranger in less than a minute. My self confidence was greater than it ever was and my whole mood was changed. Then I went back to the community and started reading again and that's when the shock came. Everybody in the community talks about sleeping with the girls, in my terms fornication. That was a problem because I need what they provide for all the right reasons, but reading their posts would remind me of this
Eph 5:12 for the things which are done by them in secret it is a shame even to speak of.
So, I started looking for one of these 'experts' who is a Christian and I could not find any. That's why I started this blog, may be there will be someone who can help and if not, I will write my progress notes and hopefully get the encouragement that I need to be pleasing to GOD while I learn this art.
Not learning is not an option, not learning how to attract women is living in sin. It is also the shortest cut to objectifying women and treating them like porn pictures because a woman like a man has two parts to her, the one is her body and that is something that I can interact with whenever I see a pretty girl. To me at this point she is just a picture an object, something to be used or avoided but never a person. I need to be able to communicate with her in order to personify rather than objectify.